In May 2013 I found out via ultrasound that our baby boy had Spina Bifida. We were all shocked and clueless as to what that meant. I had known for weeks that there was something off, something different, maybe even wrong. Those feelings were the reason I had chosen to get the blood work done by 20 weeks. I continued to work, take care of my other 2 children, the house, and my husband. In September 2013, I was put on light bed rest as the baby was trying to make his arrival early…too early. I was scheduled for C-section on Friday, October 4, 2013. My little guy was done waiting and the Wednesday before his scheduled arrival my husband rushed me to Des Moines, just over an hour from our home, as the contractions became 2 minutes apart and the baby was trying to push out. They were unable to stop him from arriving and ended up performing an emergency C-section. That is how our baby David “Crush” Fraser was born.
He needed surgery immediately after he was born to close his spine. As soon as he was brought to the NICU after his surgery on the day he was born all staff, nurses and doctors heard of this beautiful baby boy. They nicknamed him Crush. We were unable to hold him for a few days as he was so fragile. It was during this time that a hospital caseworker suggested the Ronald McDonald House. We had heard of RMH but did not think that we would qualify. Not only did we qualify but we found a place to relax and be surrounded by love.
By Saturday after he was born I was able to hold him. On Sunday daddy held him for the first time. Our baby chose that moment to finally wake up from the anesthesia. This was one of the hardest days for us as a family. My husband needed to get back home and get back to work. Our oldest needed to get back to school and our daughter, now the middle child, needed to get back to some kind of routine. To have RMH to turn to when the hospital had drained everything out of me, my mom and I knew how blessed we were.
David ended up having one more major surgery before we were able to take him home. I was able to be so close to my new baby because of RMH. For that my family and I will always be grateful and looking forward to doing what we can to pay it back. I was there for 17 nights. I do not think I would have survived without my mom and without the Ronald McDonald House.